Negotiating friendships was always tricky at school, and it doesn’t get any easier as adults. The cliques of mums at the school gate, pictures posted on Facebook of a girls night or couples having a social that never thought to include you.
Social media has a clever way of making you feel like everyone else is having more fun than you, but that’s simply not true.
The shifting tides of friendships have changed so much now we have online access into each others lives.
It’s great when you can keep up to date with old friends, see pictures of their kids growing up and birthday celebrations, but don’t be disillusioned by the popularity on social media, because it’s not real.
There is a significant difference between our online friends, our casual friends and those we actually do life with.
“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” Proverbs 18:24 MSG
Jesus had varying levels of friendship. His circle of friends ranged from all walks of life. The casual, the social and the special.
The casual wanted to crown Him (John 6:15). The social wanted Him to perform miracles (John 2), and the special denied Him (Matt 26:75).
Jesus loved people and spoke clearly to His disciples of being significant friends. (John 15) ….but He didn’t entrust Himself to them. (John 2:24)
From the crowd to the cross, He went from popularity to solitude.
His trust, His approval, His love, His affection came from the Father, not the crowds or His friends.
Friends are a blessing and special ones can be a significant part of our lives. A great support and encouragement.
“Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” Proverbs 27:9 MSG
But if we make our friendships an anchor in our lives, we are going to be quickly swept away, tossed by the waves of disappointment, hurt and unfulfilled expectations.
People are not perfect, we’re all human and unfortunately we are all guaranteed to let each other down.
Jesus knew He would be betrayed and denied by His friends, but His hope, His trust, His life was anchored to His Heavenly Father, not His disciples.
God has to be our anchor too. Friends will let us down but God will never overlook us, quit us, “unfriend” us, ignore or slander us.
He is Trustworthy, unwavering, loving, approving, comforting, forgiving, promise keeping, friend of sinners and your Best Friend Forever.